I think lately lots of people forget why they married in the 1st place...i am saying this sbb few of close people around me are getting married soon....3 of them...and let i put it this way...all of them are facing big issues...and i dont know why...i always end up being the listener...no complain...i just being there to listen...coz sumtime i think they will found solution...but need peole to listen for them to wine about it...
One day...bila one of them dok story mory morning glory...tetiba question...sbb the session are normally like i am the listener only...but that day quite different...I pause quite long...put thing into perspective...for me its quite simple....do not made judgement based on emotion only..be rational...i know its not easy at this point of relationship.....personally i think the most important question here is are both of the party remember why they are getting married in the 1st place....are the objectives of both parties the same???.....
The typical answer would be...i love him/her....i just smile...i just question them...are your partner will be able to be a good husband/wife, father/mother to ur child, being able to adapt to your family and friends and vice versa....are getting married to him/her gonna make you a better person???...a better Abb' towards Him????....
Yes love is important...but towards to certain extend....its just not enough...rasa cinta and sayang semua datang Dari-nya....remember that all we have now are just 'pinjaman' from him...he can take and give when eva he likes....
Ya i know i am not at your position right now...but still being a lister to 3 different type of people and gender...and having the experince of number of people that already married....issues always arised in relationship....kalu sebelum kawin dah tak tahan the battle...cam na tu???...coz believe me after kawin lagi banyak ujian....dgn setan yg makin sakit hati sbb terbentuknya sebuah keluargayg halal and berlandaskan agama Islam....lagi la byk ujian yg akan dtg....
What i can do now...pry for all these people happiness...
And please betulkan niat and objective masing2 bila nak mula melangkah ke alam baru ni....
Please love him/her sbb Allah....kalu dia tak reti appreciate you now...igtla all you do is because your seeking His blessing...jgn mengharap pd benda yg tak hakiki...
Jgn jadi org2 kat barat...as world are too twisted smpai wujudnya dating site utk married couple..apakah???....its get me sick reading it....http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/why-i-use-extra-marital-affairs-website-to-spice-up-my-love-life.html......ni semua jadi sbb people forget what are the main objective they getting married in the first place....and i pry all who already married....please remember the objective as simple as that.
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Who am i to you??
Last night dlm melayan perut yg meragam...n dlm cubaan untuk habiskan mind map yg dah macam peta Benua Eropah+Asia tu...tetiba playlist kat laptop hit lagu fav arwah mak...Apologize...Timberland...satu2nya lagu mat salleh yg aku dok main yg mak aku comment sedap....n dia suka tgk VCnya...oh mak u have such a good taste....terlalu fresh memory tu....tetiba air mata menitik...rasa rindu aku dtg lagi....aku fikir macam mana aku bleh hidup for the past year tanpa seorg mak dlm hidup aku....suka duka aku sapa yg dengar???....yg tanpa jemu...dgr aku membebel...for the 1st few month lepas arwah mak pergi....aku selalu dail her number kat hp...n tgg ade org jawab tak...bila tak de...aku selumber je bebel2 cam konon mak aku dok dgq kat the other end....bila dah habis...aku akan off je hp....
Yg tambah aku rs sengal skg...dulu aku selalu dok berangan bila ada chance nak dok merantau....leh bwk mak aku sekali...aku gi kerja...mak aku gi masjid or class agama...boring2....dia leh jejln gi tgk adik aku....time tu kitaorg selau dok berangan yg aku akan dok kat Hemisfera selatan and adik aku dok kat matahari terbit...so aku selalu ajar mak aku english..so that if one day that dream come true...she will not have any problems to tag us along...n language barrier tak de issue for her.....tp skg aku sengsorang ja kat sini...
Maybe semua ini yg terbaik untuk semua org...aku tambah matang bila tahu aku kena jadi lebih kuat dlm apa sj yg aku buat...bila sengsorang...kena telan je semua benda...life is a journey...its built who your today ....stronger...a fighter :)
Semua tu tinggal dlm memory otak aku sorang ja skg.....skg aku hanya tinggal satu tempat..DIA...rabbi yassir wala tu'asir....
I once have someone that i thought i can share this life with....our ups and down shared...but bila one day aku tanya " who am i to you? ".....a friend....agak kecewa sbb semua benda yg aku luahkan kat dia bkn semua org dpt dgr...but dia decide utk hanya kawan....dlm keterpaksaan aku akur jgk decision tu....walaupun sebenarya aku rebel...hari ni aku dpt tahu dia tgh down...aku kenal dia...dia sgt perluakn seseorg utk bercakap dgn dia skg....tapi aku buat senyap ja...but deep in my heart only Allah knows.
Apologize dah dkt 100 times play dr last night....housemate aku sure tgh stress dgr lagu sama ja...tp tak bunyi apa2...sbb dia nampak aku tgh hanyut sengsorang....
Yg tambah aku rs sengal skg...dulu aku selalu dok berangan bila ada chance nak dok merantau....leh bwk mak aku sekali...aku gi kerja...mak aku gi masjid or class agama...boring2....dia leh jejln gi tgk adik aku....time tu kitaorg selau dok berangan yg aku akan dok kat Hemisfera selatan and adik aku dok kat matahari terbit...so aku selalu ajar mak aku english..so that if one day that dream come true...she will not have any problems to tag us along...n language barrier tak de issue for her.....tp skg aku sengsorang ja kat sini...
Maybe semua ini yg terbaik untuk semua org...aku tambah matang bila tahu aku kena jadi lebih kuat dlm apa sj yg aku buat...bila sengsorang...kena telan je semua benda...life is a journey...its built who your today ....stronger...a fighter :)
Semua tu tinggal dlm memory otak aku sorang ja skg.....skg aku hanya tinggal satu tempat..DIA...rabbi yassir wala tu'asir....
I once have someone that i thought i can share this life with....our ups and down shared...but bila one day aku tanya " who am i to you? ".....a friend....agak kecewa sbb semua benda yg aku luahkan kat dia bkn semua org dpt dgr...but dia decide utk hanya kawan....dlm keterpaksaan aku akur jgk decision tu....walaupun sebenarya aku rebel...hari ni aku dpt tahu dia tgh down...aku kenal dia...dia sgt perluakn seseorg utk bercakap dgn dia skg....tapi aku buat senyap ja...but deep in my heart only Allah knows.
Apologize dah dkt 100 times play dr last night....housemate aku sure tgh stress dgr lagu sama ja...tp tak bunyi apa2...sbb dia nampak aku tgh hanyut sengsorang....
Monday, October 10, 2011
Everything under 1 GBP....
As i am currently holding title of Full Time Student its equivelent to financially constrain....nvm....its an investment for a better future....but believe me...zaman undergrad i already used to it and of course can do...without any difficultty.....coz at that time to see RM100 in your purse is already a big deal....:P
But....I need to be financially contious after nearly 4 years of comfartable lifestyle...back then cashing in more that GBP 1k a months is a bless....seriouslly...you can jus tbuy everything under the sun.
Present time....I need to make sure everthing especially grocery that i buy is worth below GBP1....currently everytime i go to shopping...I take it as a challange....the cheapest price for every items that i buy......but luckily here all the in store brand name are all quality stuff....felt so bless...if back in home land....dam sure i already sacrificing the taste...and sumtime i found instore items are more value for my money...i guess strong consumer right here caused all this :)
Last weekend try to find flats for my self...as i only have one sport shoes that i wear almost everywhere (back in KL i have 10 to 20 pairs)...hahahahaa...even my lacturer notice it...OMG....but in the good way...he take me as an example in the class where sumtime social/fashion/style are not applied anymore in consumerism...as lots of people will just used product in what eva situation.....i just say to him that the shoes that i have is the most comfartable in terms of its soel and grip..n yada...yada...yada.....hahahhaa...thats is totally sale persons talk that day...the truth is because i have constrain in my green...hahahahaa....but i finally manage to buy one very cute+stylish flats at DP.....with 70% discount after nearly 1 and half our of searching...oh ya 80%....pluss 10% for being a student :P...nearly shock as i only need to pay GBP7 for DP ok!!!...u will never find that in Malaysia...even selipar tandas cost you RM10 kat pasar malam...we r talking branded item here....the best purchase i made eva ;)
p/s: In life there are always +ve and -ve in everything...regardless....just keep on looking at the glass as half full :P
But....I need to be financially contious after nearly 4 years of comfartable lifestyle...back then cashing in more that GBP 1k a months is a bless....seriouslly...you can jus tbuy everything under the sun.
Present time....I need to make sure everthing especially grocery that i buy is worth below GBP1....currently everytime i go to shopping...I take it as a challange....the cheapest price for every items that i buy......but luckily here all the in store brand name are all quality stuff....felt so bless...if back in home land....dam sure i already sacrificing the taste...and sumtime i found instore items are more value for my money...i guess strong consumer right here caused all this :)
Last weekend try to find flats for my self...as i only have one sport shoes that i wear almost everywhere (back in KL i have 10 to 20 pairs)...hahahahaa...even my lacturer notice it...OMG....but in the good way...he take me as an example in the class where sumtime social/fashion/style are not applied anymore in consumerism...as lots of people will just used product in what eva situation.....i just say to him that the shoes that i have is the most comfartable in terms of its soel and grip..n yada...yada...yada.....hahahhaa...thats is totally sale persons talk that day...the truth is because i have constrain in my green...hahahahaa....but i finally manage to buy one very cute+stylish flats at DP.....with 70% discount after nearly 1 and half our of searching...oh ya 80%....pluss 10% for being a student :P...nearly shock as i only need to pay GBP7 for DP ok!!!...u will never find that in Malaysia...even selipar tandas cost you RM10 kat pasar malam...we r talking branded item here....the best purchase i made eva ;)
p/s: In life there are always +ve and -ve in everything...regardless....just keep on looking at the glass as half full :P
Saturday, October 8, 2011
Technique to practice
Few weeks back a new friend of mine give this comment about me after 3 days meeting....she conclude that I have know how to nevigate well around people....i just laugh....n thank her...regradless of the true intentions of her giving the comments to me....nvm...just see the glass are half full...yea...and told her that she is not the 1st one giving me that comment...and she continue by saying that why i choose to be in the industry that i am in???...why not lawyer or sales...hahahaa....continue smiling....being in the industry that i am..... yes knowledge and skills is important but if you want to go far...in what ever you do...proactive communication is essential...you need to continuesly communicate with various level of people...nevigation, negotiation and ability to communicate well is a key success...Prof Ungku Aziz famous word....
Background : The author is a successfull sales person...a very good book to improve communication daily...maybe the title is a bit cliche...but the techniques that she introduce are really intresting to be practice and to be perfected by all :P
Rajin bercakap, rajin bekerja - bagus sekali
Rajin bekerja, malas bercakap - kena buli
Malas kerja, rajin bercakap - wayang Cina
Malas bekerja, malas bercakap - tak guna
Malas bekerja, suka mengadu - nyanyuk
Malas bekerja, selalu ponteng - baik berhenti
Malas bekerja, suka menyibuk - baik mati
Apart of reading all the exam related books..articles...and standard for my comming exam....currently reading...
Background : The author is a successfull sales person...a very good book to improve communication daily...maybe the title is a bit cliche...but the techniques that she introduce are really intresting to be practice and to be perfected by all :P
Friday, October 7, 2011
Again???.....why???
Ok this time its has been a sleepless night again.....due to...i dream again???.....and this time I getting engaged...wake up with such annoyence....I need to find the root cause of this series of dream....there must be something that bothers my day without i noticing it in the first place....need to kill it before its getting my nerve!!!
p/s: its 8 c outside...dam cold....n Lancaster already snow!!! mampus....i need to find cheap boots and winter coat...you know why I need one If you have read my entry before.....rabbi yassir walla tua'sir...amin
p/s: its 8 c outside...dam cold....n Lancaster already snow!!! mampus....i need to find cheap boots and winter coat...you know why I need one If you have read my entry before.....rabbi yassir walla tua'sir...amin
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Myself
This time the entry gonna be a total self centred type....talking about me, myself and I
I come to a realization on certain thing in my life over the few years....
Note that I have a hard time making friends....note for those that know me might comment the other way around ......as people know me with a bubbly character...yea...agreed...on the surface yes...true...for me its call netwoking...i have no problems with that....i am dam good at that actually...but i am talking about friends...the one that i am willing to kill the other person literally if he/she try to hurt them kind a person...its really hard...to the max...i have this insecurity issue...i know that i am not perfect...but still i am working hard to be one...so for those people that have become my friends I will treasure you guys/girls forever insyallah....
On the other hand...normally the one that are really close with me...by default...we cannot live together 24 hours....due to...i am the kind of person who love my space...WIDE....found a few one that understand that....they still being a bitch talking behind me because I love to keep secret...never mind... i can live with people who a bitching behind my back...FYI..note that other people also have mouth and have the same ability to bitch back about you ya...my stand i will not used...coz if i do i gonna be end up being just like you...which is i am not....maybe for whom that read this might find it difficult to comprehend what is the main thing i am typing all this down....no need to understand...just understood this....i am piss with some one that i taught MY FRIEND....but now i am officially delisted the status...and off playing sodoku to ease my tamper...adios!!!
I come to a realization on certain thing in my life over the few years....
Note that I have a hard time making friends....note for those that know me might comment the other way around ......as people know me with a bubbly character...yea...agreed...on the surface yes...true...for me its call netwoking...i have no problems with that....i am dam good at that actually...but i am talking about friends...the one that i am willing to kill the other person literally if he/she try to hurt them kind a person...its really hard...to the max...i have this insecurity issue...i know that i am not perfect...but still i am working hard to be one...so for those people that have become my friends I will treasure you guys/girls forever insyallah....
On the other hand...normally the one that are really close with me...by default...we cannot live together 24 hours....due to...i am the kind of person who love my space...WIDE....found a few one that understand that....they still being a bitch talking behind me because I love to keep secret...never mind... i can live with people who a bitching behind my back...FYI..note that other people also have mouth and have the same ability to bitch back about you ya...my stand i will not used...coz if i do i gonna be end up being just like you...which is i am not....maybe for whom that read this might find it difficult to comprehend what is the main thing i am typing all this down....no need to understand...just understood this....i am piss with some one that i taught MY FRIEND....but now i am officially delisted the status...and off playing sodoku to ease my tamper...adios!!!
Saturday, October 1, 2011
Memory...1st night
1st night sampai...suara pilot kedengaran...selepas 12 jam...kita akan mendarat sebentar lagi dan awal setgh jam dari jadual...dalam hati alhamdullillah bleh la aku beranikan diri untuk ke Liverpool Street kalu still awal. Pandangan terakhir sebelum touch down....wow...byknya lampu...(note that aku jakun sikit...besala budak kampung yg tak pernah langsung keluar dari tempurungnya...cecah kaki kat KL pun sbb dpt belajar and cari rezeki...kalu tak mmg aku akan bertapa la di kampung halaman ku...note ticket utk keluar rumah hanya tertera untuk pergi belajar atau kerja...if not...sila duduk rumah)...hem..memory...sampai hari ni aku still tak percaya leh sampai kat sini....semua ketentuan darinya...alhamdulillah.....the 1st few weeks aku kerap bangun dari tidur dah terfikir...eh kat mana yek skg?...then baru sedar aku dah bertukar benua.
1st time keluar dari Tanah Melayu setelah berabad...note this is my 2nd flight experince....1st time ade visa dalam seumur hidup....kelakar btl pengalaman kat airport tadi...sbbkan kebluran aku tak tahu mcm mana nak go through peneriksaan kastam...lawak...leh plak aku gi beratur yg panajng kat tmpat lain...nasib baik la pak guard tegur aku...dik Malaysian kan?...leh check automatic ye...oh ye ke pakcik...terima kasih...sy tak tahu...huhuhuhhu....sendirian ....situasi ini membuatkan aku tersenyum sendiri...pttla org keliling aku pandang semacam je tadi.......hahahahhaa......agak ketinggalan untuk seorg yg sudah berusia ini....
Dalam lautan manusia.....aku hampir tengelam dengan tubuh yg kecil ini.....situasi kelakar berlaku lagi...laguage seberat 23 kilo tak mampu diangkat dari mesin roller...hahhaaa..sambil ketawa kecil aku gagahkan jugak...nasib baik ada couple Brits's sebaris dgn ku menghulurkan bantuan....lega...thank you so much...sambil senyum macam budak kecik...."its ok love...be safe ya"...aku senyum saja...dalam hati tuhan saja yang tahu....heeemmmm...macam mana ni???.....org yg janji nak dtg ambik aku tak jd dtg la plak....sebelum touch down tadi....tak henti2 aku berdoa agar perjalanan aku dipermudahkan....
Its ok...take it like challange....bayangkan ada camera yg follow hang...tajuknya " Zent Adventure"....lebih menarikan?...setiap langkah tak putus2 dgn zikir dan ayatul kursi....syarat...sila tunjuk confident...cam terror...n sila tanya orang bila tak pasti...lantak la nampak bodoh pun...dari bodoh sombong...am i getting it right?...
Alhamdulillah....perjalanan dr Stensted Airport sampai Westminister berjalan dgn lancar...bersyukur dgn pertolongannya.....tapi how I manage to get to infront of my flats...ceritanya terlalu panjang dan terlalu banyak a series of unfortunate eventnya....its truely a journey....its ok...i take it as among the most precious experiance in my life....
Ya Allah kau lindungilah aku dalam apa jua keadaan....peliharalah keselamatan dan kesihatanku...amin...
1st time keluar dari Tanah Melayu setelah berabad...note this is my 2nd flight experince....1st time ade visa dalam seumur hidup....kelakar btl pengalaman kat airport tadi...sbbkan kebluran aku tak tahu mcm mana nak go through peneriksaan kastam...lawak...leh plak aku gi beratur yg panajng kat tmpat lain...nasib baik la pak guard tegur aku...dik Malaysian kan?...leh check automatic ye...oh ye ke pakcik...terima kasih...sy tak tahu...huhuhuhhu....sendirian ....situasi ini membuatkan aku tersenyum sendiri...pttla org keliling aku pandang semacam je tadi.......hahahahhaa......agak ketinggalan untuk seorg yg sudah berusia ini....
Dalam lautan manusia.....aku hampir tengelam dengan tubuh yg kecil ini.....situasi kelakar berlaku lagi...laguage seberat 23 kilo tak mampu diangkat dari mesin roller...hahhaaa..sambil ketawa kecil aku gagahkan jugak...nasib baik ada couple Brits's sebaris dgn ku menghulurkan bantuan....lega...thank you so much...sambil senyum macam budak kecik...."its ok love...be safe ya"...aku senyum saja...dalam hati tuhan saja yang tahu....heeemmmm...macam mana ni???.....org yg janji nak dtg ambik aku tak jd dtg la plak....sebelum touch down tadi....tak henti2 aku berdoa agar perjalanan aku dipermudahkan....
Its ok...take it like challange....bayangkan ada camera yg follow hang...tajuknya " Zent Adventure"....lebih menarikan?...setiap langkah tak putus2 dgn zikir dan ayatul kursi....syarat...sila tunjuk confident...cam terror...n sila tanya orang bila tak pasti...lantak la nampak bodoh pun...dari bodoh sombong...am i getting it right?...
Alhamdulillah....perjalanan dr Stensted Airport sampai Westminister berjalan dgn lancar...bersyukur dgn pertolongannya.....tapi how I manage to get to infront of my flats...ceritanya terlalu panjang dan terlalu banyak a series of unfortunate eventnya....its truely a journey....its ok...i take it as among the most precious experiance in my life....
Ya Allah kau lindungilah aku dalam apa jua keadaan....peliharalah keselamatan dan kesihatanku...amin...
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